I’m sure a very rational and logical person came up with this little pie chart, but it’s misleading.
Time is not the only factor when it comes to taking on new tasks in life. What’s more important is the quality of the time that you spend, rather than the amount that you have.
It’s a rookie mistake to think that just because you spent 10,000 hours on some particular task, that you’re automatically qualified to be called a master.
Just because you wiped your ass 100,000 times doesn’t turn you into a master ass wiper.
What would make you into a master ass wiper would be:
- The attentive attention to detail that you put in with every stroke.
- The form and technique that you’ve developed with each pass.
- The exploitation of some quirky flick of the wrist that was done by mistake once, but proved to be 43% more efficient than previous movements.
What I’m trying to say here is that the combination of deliberate practice, presence in the moment, post-practice review, and planned future adjustments will make you into a master ass wiper much faster than just simply putting in “effort” over time.
You don’t just put in “time” with your family or significant other as so many people do. Being attentive and active with someone in the moment is worth so much more than just your mere presence.
I’m guilty of this just as much as anyone else.
I’ve spent whole afternoons with my girlfriend where I was with her physically, but mentally I just wasn’t there. My mind was more focused on things that I needed to get done, plans on how to get those things done, and suppressing my emotions on how I felt about not getting those things done.
If you set aside time to be with someone, you better be there with them.
It’s a waste of time for both parties if you only show up and aren’t able to actually engage with them in the present moment.
- Relationships, just like skills, need deliberate practice.
- They need attention to detail and your presence in the moment.
- I’d go so far as to have some post introspective review on how well time was spent with that person and make future adjustments to improve the experience next time around.
- Once you’ve managed to “make time” for new skills or relationships in your life, it’s equally as important to ensure that the time that you spend is of massive quality.
- The value of your time changes immensely with how you spend it.
- Learn to spend it well and give your full attention and focus to whatever you decided to spend it on.
Once you understand that everything that you do is a type of practice and you learn to do those things well, you’ll find that you aren’t scrambling for more time anymore.
Anyway, post done. I ain’t got no muhfuggin’ time fo dis shit.